Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Adoption analogy

This is a touching analogy about adoption. My hope is to bring an awareness to others about the joys, hardships and blessings of adoption. We are not going through LDS Social Services. We felt this was not the path for us. We have a private social worker who has a few leads for us, but we just wait. We try not to get our hopes up because we just never know. We can't buy anything because we don't know when it will be or who it will be....we pray and hope that whatever is supposed to happen, will. We keep our faith alive. And we wait....

ADOPTION IS LIKE AUSTRALIA
Deciding to have a baby is like planning a trip to Australia. You've heard it's a wonderful place, you've read many guide-books and feel certain you're ready to go. Everyone you know has traveled there by plane. They say it can be a turbulent flight with occasional rough landings, but you can look forward to being pampered on the trip. So you go to the airport and ask the ticket agent for a ticket to Australia. All around you, excited people are boarding planes for Australia. It seems there is no seat for you; you'll have to wait for the next flight. Impatient, but anticipating a wonderful trip, you wait --- and wait --- and wait. Flights to Australia continue to come and go. People say silly things like, "Relax. You'll get on a flight soon." Other people actually get on a plane and then cancel their trip, to which you cry, "It's no fair!" After a long time the ticket agent tells you, "I'm sorry, we're not going to be able to get you on a plane to Australia. Perhaps you should think about going by boat." "By BOAT!" you say. "Going by boat will take a very long time and it costs a great deal of money. I really had my heart set on going by plane." So you go home and think about not going to Australia at all. You wonder if Australia will be as beautiful if you approach it by sea rather than air. But you have long dreamed of this wonderful place, and finally you decide to travel by boat. It is a long trip, many months over many rough seas. No one pampers you. You wonder if you will ever see Australia. Meanwhile, your friends and family have flown back and forth to Australia two or three more times, marveling about each trip. Then one glorious day, the boat docks in Australia. It is more exquisite than you ever imagined, and the beauty is magnified by your long days at sea. You have made many wonderful friends during your voyage, and you find yourself comparing stories with others who also traveled by sea rather than by air. People continue to fly to Australia as often as they like, but you are able to travel only once, perhaps twice. Some say things like, "Oh, be glad you didn't fly. My flight was horrible; traveling by sea is so easy." You will always wonder what it would have been like to fly to Australia. Still, you know God blessed you with a special appreciation of Australia, and the beauty of Australia is not in the way you get there, but in the place itself.

10 comments:

Kristina said...

That is a beautiful analogy for adoption. Thank you for sharing it with all of us.

Rawlings Family said...

I really wish you the best in your adventures. Even though I have yet to meet you wonderful people, I know you will be wonderful parents. May the Lord bless your efforts and desires.

Get Bent said...

Did you write that analogy yourself? That was a really good analogy.

I wish you clear skies and no squalls on your voyage. I think ...rawlings (?first name) said it best. You will be great parents.

The Adams family said...

it is so funny becuase I just read this on other friedns bolg! Wierd. I think it totally fits and know it will happen for you someday! You will make the best parents!

James and Tricia Thomas said...

Yeah, I just found your blog! I really loved that story!! In the mean time you get to pretend that you are visiting each Sunday as you patiently deal with Dorothy!

Emily said...

Thanks for sharing that Brandy. I'll be praying for you guys.

Rawlings Family said...

I have thought about massage therapy but I don't really know that much about it. I know my insurance doesn't cover chiropractic work but I have no idea about massage. I have a doctor's appointment so I'll ask them. Thanks so much.

Lisa said...

Brandy- Good luck with the adooption. I can only imagine how hard it is.
By the way, what do you have to do to become a "friend who blogs"? :) Just kidding. Hope you've checked us out.

Criscell said...

What a beautiful analogy, Brandy! I know I can't even begin to imagine what you've been through. How do you do it? Hang in there! The Lord loves you and so do I!

mommaof4wife2r said...

i know this is an old post for you...but i came across it looking for the allegory! my husband and I have 4 children that all have very different stories, and we've done the australia travel but boat, air, cruise ship,etc....

you'll make it to australia, i promise!

smiles to you...and you can check out my 4 girls on my blog if you'd like!